The difference between dwelling and ruminating on the past (and feeling like a victim), and being willing to get clarification (and expose our truth), is that the latter gives us peace.
Many of us don’t address things with others, as many of us have experienced being shut down when trying to discuss our truth with others. But the truth does not go away by ignoring it or shooing it away. It stays, and it gets stronger and stronger, as a callous on our foot does after we step on a splinter. And similar to a callous, our hearts and relationships can’t heal.
Talking through our truth allows us to come to an agreement and a reconciliation, and that strengthens trust. No matter how uncomfortable, reality is reality. We are not living in a perfect story, facades are shields trying to protect us from our pain. As we know, the human experience can be challenging, messy, ugly, painful, and heartbreaking. But that is only part of it.
Life is also beautiful, and once we get clarification, we come to terms with the truth, and we decide what to do with it. Whether we choose to look at it, address it, ignore it, or put a band aid on it, the truth will still be there.
Playing charades dishonors us, our relationships, and the truth. And from there, we can’t heal. Being in pain encourages us to go against one another.
We are all different, and we’re all impacted differently by the same situation. Opening up our mind and heart gives us empowerment. Remember, life is not a competition. We are all enough as we are.
Every opportunity gives us a chance for joy or growth, and from there we decide what to do with it.
We feel what we feel. Having the courage to speak up, we can be who we are in the best version of ourselves. The truth shines light on everything, including our magnificence.
Suppressing emotions, and not allowing them to flow through us, is unhealthy. The same is true with anything that’s “stuck” within us, and causes emotional, mental, physical and spiritual disease. Dis-ease keeps us in a perpetual state of unease and discomfort. Our emotions are gifts and tools from your spirit to enable us to navigate life. According to the book “Conversations with God: An Uncommon Dialogue” by Neale Donald Walsch, there are five natural emotions: Grief, Anger, Envy, Fear and Love. Below are brief descriptions, explaining how they serve us, and why we should not suppress them.
Grief Grief is natural emotion after suffering a loss. It can be a physical death of a loved one, an end of a business venture, a dissolved marriage, an estranged family member, an injury that affects our physical abilities, unrequited love, or a loss of money. Life situations can result in many of these losses happening at once. Grief can also be more subtle, such as losing a sports game or a piece of jewelry. Grief hurts, sometimes agonizingly so. Grief can occur when we need to say goodbye to something or someone, when we don’t want to. Leaning into grief and allowing the sadness to flow through us freely, allows emotions to guide us through the process of mourning. If we don’t allow this very natural and healthy process to happen, momentary grief can turn into chronic depression. Depression can destroy hope in the lives of those experiencing it, as well as those around them.
Anger Anger is our spirit telling us to set boundaries. It is telling us to say “No” when we sense something, or someone, is crossing a boundary. It is living in our Spiritual Sovereignty (click here for more on my post of Spiritual Sovereignty), and remembering it is not only okay, but many times necessary, to say no. When we suppress our natural anger (which signals something is crossing a boundary), then the anger becomes rage. Ongoing rage is dangerous, and can be even deadly.
Envy
It’s natural to feel envy. Envy tells us what we want by seeing it in another. By allowing the emotion to flow and signal our desires, it gives us the opportunity to see what we need for ourselves. This can create action. If we suppress the feeling of envy, and don’t take action, it becomes jealousy. Jealousy is a very unnatural emotion, and can be extremely damaging to our relationship with ourselves and others.
Fear The purpose of natural fear is to give us protection. Caution helps keep us safe and alive. Gavin de Becker wrote a book “The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence,” which proved that when people did not listen to their natural instinct of fear, they became victims of violence. Listening to the feeling of “I shouldn’t get on that elevator,” or “something didn’t feel right about being alone with this person” can keep us safe, secure and alive. If we suppress our natural fear, it becomes panic. Ongoing panic keeps us in a perpetual fight or flight response mode, not allowing us to relax, stay safe and enjoy life. This will negatively affect us, physically and emotionally, and will affect people in our lives as a result.
Love When love is allowed to be felt, expressed and shared without embarrassment, inhibition, manipulation or conditions, it is the strongest connection we can have to another being. When we are taught to love conditionally, with rules, and not openly, our feelings become suppressed. When we are not able to express our love limitless, we experience possessiveness, one of the most unhealthy and dangerous emotions that can destroy relationships and trust. We hold onto others in an unhealthy way, not allowing them to have their freedom to love in their own right. We are then unable to feel satisfied with what we are given by another. This negatively impacts ourselves, and others, in shared intimacy.
I will end my post with, “Be you.” Allowing our emotions to flow through us, (as the water does in the picture above) gives us a real sense of how to respond to a situation. As in the picture, no matter how we react, the rocks will still be there. We can flow over and through the rocks, or allow the rocks to create a dam. When we stop allowing personal, and outside, judgment from creating suppression, natural emotions flow without shame. Then we all benefit by becoming more of who we are, healed.
The Judgement card represents all of us being judged, and that we can
redirect our karma as soon as we set our intention to do so. We are not
defined by our mistakes, but the decisions we make every day. We can
redirect our lives and the judgement we receive.
If this is you, you can make things better, believing in yourself. Put
yourself in a position to make amends. If this is someone you know, give
them the grace, space and support so they can feel your belief in them
to turn things around.❤️
I hope this brings you a message that you needed to hear today. If
someone you care about needs to see this, please pass it on.
This card is from one of my favorite decks, Golden Art Nouveau by Giulia F.
Massaglia.
The King of Cups represents someone who is mature, emotionally intelligent and gives great advice. He is wise and diplomatic.
If this is you, your guidance is needed, so let someone you know who is struggling that you are there for them. If you need guidance, this represents someone in your life who can help you, so go ahead and ask them for help.
The King of Cups will be there for you and guide you in the right direction 🏆❤️
I hope this brings you a message that you needed to hear today.
If someone you care about needs to see this, please pass it on ❤️
This card is from one of my favorite decks, Golden Art Nouveau by Giulia F.
Massaglia.
Suppressing emotions, and not allowing them to flow through us, is
unhealthy.
No matter how we react, the rocks will still be there. We can flow over
and through the rocks, or allow the rocks to create a dam.
Our emotions are gifts and tools from our spirit to enable us to
navigate life.
When we stop allowing personal and outside judgement from creating
suppression, natural emotions flow without shame.
Then we all benefit by becoming of who we are, healed.
I hope this brings you a message that you needed to hear today.
