The Five Natural Emotions NOT To Suppress.

 

Suppressing emotions, and not allowing them to flow through us, is unhealthy. The same is true with anything that’s “stuck” within us, and causes emotional, mental, physical and spiritual disease. Dis-ease keeps us in a perpetual state of unease and discomfort. Our emotions are gifts and tools from your spirit to enable us to navigate life. According to the book “Conversations with God: An Uncommon Dialogue” by Neale Donald Walsch, there are five natural emotions: Grief, Anger, Envy, Fear and Love. Below are brief descriptions, explaining how they serve us, and why we should not suppress them.



Grief
Grief is natural emotion after suffering a loss. It can be a physical death of a loved one, an end of a business venture, a dissolved marriage, an estranged family member, an injury that affects our physical abilities, unrequited love, or a loss of money.  Life situations can result in many of these losses happening at once. Grief can also be more subtle, such as losing a sports game or a piece of jewelry. Grief hurts, sometimes agonizingly so. Grief can occur when we need to say goodbye to something or someone, when we don’t want to. Leaning into grief and allowing the sadness to flow through us freely, allows emotions to guide us through the process of mourning. If we don’t allow this very natural and healthy process to happen, momentary grief can turn into chronic depression. Depression can destroy hope in the lives of those experiencing it, as well as those around them.


Anger
Anger is our spirit telling us to set boundaries. It is telling us to say “No” when we sense something, or someone, is crossing a boundary. It is living in our Spiritual Sovereignty (click here for more on my post of Spiritual Sovereignty), and remembering it is not only okay, but many times necessary, to say no. When we suppress our natural anger (which signals something is crossing a boundary), then the anger becomes rage. Ongoing rage is dangerous, and can be even deadly.



Envy  

It’s natural to feel envy. Envy tells us what we want by seeing it in another. By allowing the emotion to flow and signal our desires, it gives us the opportunity to see what we need for ourselves. This can create action. If we suppress the feeling of envy, and don’t take action, it becomes jealousy. Jealousy is a very unnatural emotion, and can be extremely damaging to our relationship with ourselves and others.

Fear
The purpose of natural fear is to give us protection. Caution helps keep us safe and alive. Gavin de Becker wrote a book “The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence,” which proved that when people did not listen to their natural instinct of fear, they became victims of violence. Listening to the feeling of “I shouldn’t get on that elevator,” or “something didn’t feel right about being alone with this person” can keep us safe, secure and alive. If we suppress our natural fear, it becomes panic. Ongoing panic keeps us in a perpetual fight or flight response mode, not allowing us to relax, stay safe and enjoy life. This will negatively affect us, physically and emotionally, and will affect people in our lives as a result.



Love
When love is allowed to be felt, expressed and shared without embarrassment, inhibition, manipulation or conditions, it is the strongest connection we can have to another being. When we are taught to love conditionally, with rules, and not openly, our feelings become suppressed. When we are not able to express our love limitless, we experience possessiveness, one of the most unhealthy and dangerous emotions that can destroy relationships and trust. We hold onto others in an unhealthy way, not allowing them to have their freedom to love in their own right. We are then unable to feel satisfied with what we are given by another. This negatively impacts ourselves, and others, in shared intimacy.

I will end my post with, “Be you.” Allowing our emotions to flow through us, (as the water does in the picture above) gives us a real sense of how to respond to a situation. As in the picture, no matter how we react, the rocks will still be there. We can flow over and through the rocks, or allow the rocks to create a dam. When we stop allowing personal, and outside, judgment from creating suppression, natural emotions flow without shame. Then we all benefit by becoming more of who we are, healed. 

 

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