Connecting the Dots of our Lives, Living Out Our Story.

 

Steve Jobs gave a commencement speech to Stanford University in 2005. In his speech, he recounted his life and success, and how he was able to connect the dots in hindsight. All of his decisions lead to his life path which made a significant impact on our everyday lives. The outcomes of his decisions were unknown to him at the time. 

One notable fact is that Steve Jobs decided to audit and learn calligraphy after he dropped out of college. This single decision lead to Apple Computers offering many different fonts and becoming the front runner in the creative space of computers. Apple computers became known as the computer for artists and creatives, leading to the massive success of computers, i-pads, and i-phones. 

As many of us are going through a transition, and not knowing the direction that things are going to take us, it can be scary. Fear can keep us in unhealthy lock holds.

Oftentimes, we get held back from the very people in our lives in which we interact with the most. People may hold us back because of their own fears and imposing them on us. If we internalize these fears, we become stuck. We can all learn from Steve Jobs experience in how to be brave. 

Steps to move forward with confidence:

Have faith. 
Believing in a bigger picture, and recognizing how opportunities can be a gateway helps us move out of stagnation. It can take us on the road less traveled, and allow us to live out a bigger and more fulfilling life. Trusting a higher power, whether it is the universe, God, or spirit guides, will help keep us on our path. We can stop surviving and being part of “the system,” and step into our Spiritual Sovereignty. 

Attitude of curiosity.
Taking on the attitude of being curious, as opposed to frightened and self conscious, takes us away from anxiety and being stuck. It gives us space to take away unrealistic expectations we put on a situation. We see each moment in our lives as a step to something bigger in our story.

Leaning into intuition.
Using our inner guide, our internal GPS, is trusting ourselves and living out our destiny. If we have a feeling about something, we should go with the feeling. We can always re-direct. Being adaptable helps us take the bumps along the way in stride.

And finally, reflect.
Journal to get out of your head, and always feel you should be “doing something.” This gives us space to reflect. If you don’t like journaling, keep a spreadsheet, write poetry, create music. Use your creative powers to reflect. And when you are ready to take action, use your creative powers to take action. 

In summary, do not be afraid. Go with life knowing you don’t know everything, or where you will land. Do so with curiosity and faith, listen to the universe, and always use your own spirit to guide you.

Below is the link to the full commencement speech: 

https://www.othelloschools.org/cms/lib/WA02215524/Centricity/Domain/213/7th%20Week%201%20ELA.pdf

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Is it Really Within Your Control?

We all know stress can get the best of us. 

Determining if something is within your control can be challenging (to say the least).

Is there something you can do about it? Or not?

The four scenarios that can play out:

You Have Control and You Take Action:
If you determine that there is something you can do about your circumstances, and you take action, you become the master of your own fate. You learn through experience, both what to do and not to do, going forward. You become a master. This builds your confidence, faith and a positive outlook moving forward. 

You Don’t Have Control and Take Action:
When you try to control something that is out of your grasp, you can become frustrated, controlling and angry. You become a Type A control freak, trying to control everything because you can’t control something that is important to you, but not attainable.

When You Have Control and Don’t Take Action:
When you don’t take action, although you have control due to fear, insecurity or a passive outlook, you can feel like a failure. This is when depression can set in, as you feel helpless and hopeless.

When You Don’t Have Control and Don’t Take Action:
You find peace, and you are able to focus on what you can control.

 

3 Questions to Ask Yourself:
Is this within my place?
Is this within my power?
Is this within my circumstances?

A few ways to cope with stress, when you are feeling out of control:

Visualize:
This is a really powerful tool in acquiring your goals. Imagine yourself doing something with ease and confidence. This will give you a framework of how to move forward in a way that represents you, and is in alignment with your authentic self. It is proactive, as opposed to reactive. You can respond vs. react!

Track:
Ask yourself, "has this happened in the past?" Was there something similar that you can lean into?  What did you acquire, learn, grow from? What more do you have to learn? What did you do that helped you?

Tackle Worst Case Scenario:
What is the worst case scenario? Determine how you will handle it, using visualization. And then determine how you will cope in the aftermath.

Talk To a Loved One:
As we are all connected to one another, talking with a trusted confidant will give you support, encouragement and a sense of being cared for.

And in the meantime, a prayer to meditate on:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

 

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What To Do When Someone Crosses Your Boundaries.

 

Setting boundaries is a form of self care. It keeps us safe from situations and relationships that are unhealthy for us. The longer we hold onto to situations that disrespect us or our time, there is no room for us to possess self-love. 

This video goes over 7 actions that will help you get your mind in the right place, and remind you that you are worthy of both love and respect. 

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Leaning Into Your Pain to Heal. The 5 questions to ask yourself.

 

 

For many of us, we avoid looking at our pain because we feel it will bring us more discomfort. If we see it, what do we do with it? Therefore, we don't want to think about it, we don't want to talk about it - we just want it to go away. 

Leaning into pain helps us heal. Think about the last time you went to the doctor, and if you didn't want to tell them what was wrong, how could they help you? Where are your discomforts and where is your pain? 

The five questions are: Who, What, Where, Why and How? 

Who. The most important is the Who. People and relationships are the most impactful (and potentially, painful) aspect of our lives. Leaning into the discomfort of recognizing the interaction we have with other people, and not pretending it is all okay, gives us the power of knowledge. It is about self discovery. 

Where. As we know, our environment impacts us. How we use our energy, and the energy we give away impacts us. We are wired differently. By respecting and honoring our energy and your time, we know what works for us. This is also a boundary issue. Where are you at your best? Be in places and spaces that bring out the best in you, to regulate you and keep you at peace 

What. This is a good question to ask. What is going on? To look at the dynamics of a situation. How can you be most aligned with the situations you participate in, and how can you best manage this in terms of expectations and action. 

Why It's why do I feel this way? Getting real, getting granular. The why is how we get awareness. Then we get a better understanding our ourselves, and know what to do next. 

How. How do we move forward, living authentically, getting real...and living in our spiritual sovereignty. By asking the questions above, and getting answers, the path is clearer. I hope this helps you on your journey of self discovery, and gives you more understanding of others, and their relationship with you. 

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Astrology, an Introduction

 

Most of us know our sun sign, but there is so much more to it. In Astrology, there are 12 signs, one for each month, 3 for each season. 

What many people that are not familiar with astrology may not realize, is that each sign has a "quality" or "modality." This is due to where the sign is within a season. Furthermore, each sign has an element of Fire, Earth, Air or Water, which will affect how we approach life. 

The wheel starts with Aries (beginning of Spring) and ends with Pisces (end of Winter). 

Each season has 3 modalities: cardinal signs (beginning of season), fixed signs (middle of season) and mutable signs (end of season). 

Cardinal signs as the new season begins, these signs initiate and lead, as the new season is the start of something new. These signs are Aries, Cancer, Libra and Capricorn.

Fixed signs are in the middle of a season. They are rooted and bring stability. These signs are Taurus, Leo, Scorpio and Aquarius. 

Mutable signs are the signs that mark the end of each season. They are flexible, as they understand the natural cycles of life and the need for transformation. These signs include Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius and Pisces. 

 

Each sign also has an element, which is either Fire, Earth, Water or Air. 

Fire signs are fiery, passionate, and like to initiate to get things done. They can be bold, and also impatient and impulsive. These signs are Aries, Leo and Sagittarius. 

Earth signs are practical, grounded, material oriented, resourceful and methodical. They can be consistent, but also resistant to change. They include Taurus, Virgo and Capricorn. 

Water signs have emotional intelligence, intuition, and are sensitive, nurturing and creative. They run deep, but can take things too personally and be too sensitive. These include Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces. 

Air signs are intellectual, communicative, quick witted, social and logical. They can also be less practical and have anxiety due to overthinking. These signs include Libra, Aquarius and Gemini. 

To better understand how the combinations of position and elements can affect each sign, the following is a quick rundown of the combination of each sign: 

Aries - Cardinal and Fire

Taurus - Fixed and Earth 

Gemini - Mutable and Air 

Cancer - Cardinal and Water 

Leo - Fixed and Fire 

Virgo - Mutable and Earth 

Libra - Cardinal and Air 

Scorpio - Fixed and Water 

Sagittarius - Mutable and Fire 

Capricorn - Cardinal and Earth 

Aquarius - Fixed and Air 

Pisces - Mutable and Water 

 

To find out how all the signs in your chart affect your overall approach to life, please check out https://astro.cafeastrology.com/natal.php (you will need to know your exact time of birth to complete this).

 

I hope this helps you on your journey of self discovery, and gives you more understanding of others, and their relationship with you.

 

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Is There a Pattern to Your Pain?

Have you ever noticed that you are re-living some of the same scenarios, getting hurt and disappointed over and over again? 

As in the movie Groundhog Day, it is because it is something we still haven't learned. Somehow though, your best friend or family member is going through the same exact situation, and doesn't feel affected in the least! This is because we all have triggers due to our psychology, how we are designed, and our experiences. The problem is that it may keep happening until we can grow past it. 

If you think ignoring the lessons is going to make it go away, then visualize what it’s like burning your hand on the stove. Saying "I'm fine" doesn't make it go away. You get burned and the scar is there. We have to treat our heart as we would our body - with care, so it can heal. 

By keeping a journal (or using the notes app on your phone) and documenting your most hurtful experiences, you can get an overview of the patterns that keep coming up.  

Then you can ask "What are the themes behind the things that have hurt me and disappointed me the most?" Is it feeling left out, not being supported? I know for me, it has been worrying too much what other people think. I had to be tested enough times tto stop focusing on other people, and courageously live authentically as who I am.

Once we see the patterns, and have insight, the healing has the opportunity to begin. This process can be difficult and ego busting, but creates a lot of growth and peace of mind. 

So where are you hurting the most?

And what can you change within yourself to stop the pain?  

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Protect Yourself by Detaching.

 

The Detachment Theory teaches us how to emotionally distance ourselves from situations that trigger us. By allowing ourselves to observe what's happening without internalizing it, we become free.

As a human race, we are designed to need others in our lives to survive and be connected. However, when the ones we need the most do not protect us, and instead consistently hurt us, we need to take our power back. 

By using the Detachment Theory, we distance ourselves enough to see the situation as outside of ourselves. We stop owning it. We protect ourselves emotionally. We refuse to take other people's bad behavior personally. We no longer feel that it is our responsibility to correct (including coming back with the "perfect response”).
 
We may have been conditioned to see ourselves as weak for not coming in for the kill, but choosing ourselves and our inner peace is our power. 

When we are not afraid to reclaim our Spiritual Sovereignty, we are reminded that we are here to live out our divine purpose, always loving and respecting ourselves. We can, and many times need to, create healthy distance between ourselves and others while still being able to care about them.

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