Is There a Pattern to Your Pain?

Have you ever noticed that you are re-living some of the same scenarios, getting hurt and disappointed over and over again? 

As in the movie Groundhog Day, it is because it is something we still haven't learned. Somehow though, your best friend or family member is going through the same exact situation, and doesn't feel affected in the least! This is because we all have triggers due to our psychology, how we are designed, and our experiences. The problem is that it may keep happening until we can grow past it. 

If you think ignoring the lessons is going to make it go away, then visualize what it’s like burning your hand on the stove. Saying "I'm fine" doesn't make it go away. You get burned and the scar is there. We have to treat our heart as we would our body - with care, so it can heal. 

By keeping a journal (or using the notes app on your phone) and documenting your most hurtful experiences, you can get an overview of the patterns that keep coming up.  

Then you can ask "What are the themes behind the things that have hurt me and disappointed me the most?" Is it feeling left out, not being supported? I know for me, it has been worrying too much what other people think. I had to be tested enough times tto stop focusing on other people, and courageously live authentically as who I am.

Once we see the patterns, and have insight, the healing has the opportunity to begin. This process can be difficult and ego busting, but creates a lot of growth and peace of mind. 

So where are you hurting the most?

And what can you change within yourself to stop the pain?  

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